“So for example, I’m a three-time survivor of rape, and about that I have no shame, because it was never my shame to begin with—it was the perpetrator’s shame. And only when I was a grown empowered adult and had healthy boundaries and had the opportunity to do helpful work on that trauma was I able to say, okay, that perpetrator was shameless, and put their shame on me. Now I gave that shame back, and it’s my job to break my isolation and talk with other girls and other women.” – Ashley Judd
In reference to shame, I will be using material from John Bradshaw who wrote, at the time, the seminal book on shame. For now, here is a PDF you can review and see if you find yourself anywhere in these charts.